As we let our daughter revel in the black box of kindergarten, I’ve realized how little control we have over her day to day experience at school.
We were given five years to get things started, but then you let her go into the world and she’s off to make her own little universe.
You hope the choices you make along the way were the right selections. But some of them, such as speaking primarily Chinese at home, are long term plays which may not aid her immediate social experience at the playground.
You’re pretty sure it will pay off, but it’s still a tradeoff. One where she had no say in the matter.